The Xanthippe Factor

 
 
 
 
 
 
The Xanthippe Factor deals with the relationship between men and women in marriage. It examines what happens to love in the various stages of the relationship, why so many men and women are unhappy with their marriages, and what can be done to make long lasting and loving relations that fit the world in which we live.
The Xanthippe Factor argues that marriage has remained largely unchanged since the time of the famous Greek philosopher Socrates and his wife Xanthippe without adapting to the modern complexities of life in general and marriage in particular.
The book confronts the reader with basic questions about the relationships between men and women in marriage: i.e., role division, parenting, sex, and disagreements - and provides insights, solutions, and tools about how couples can overcome marriage pitfalls and improve their relationships.
 
 
 
 
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Book Review: 'The Xanthippe Factor: How Can Couples Overcome Today's Challenges' by Sara Breslerman

Israeli author Dr. Sara Breslerman (Ph.D., University of Haifa) is a family and couples therapist and researcher and has won recognition for her extensive research on the problematic relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. In The Xanthippe Factor Dr. Breslerman examines a common phenomenon whereby women change after marriage and especially after the birth of children. In her own unique, personal voice, she gives readers the opportunity to observe themselves in the more challenging stages of marriage and to find ways to navigate through the pitfalls of matrimony.
Dr. Breslerman won recognition for her extensive research on the problematic relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
What Sara shares in this illuminating book is a warm counseling session about the changes that occur in long term relationships. She offers her thoughts by sharing her own life experiences and then examines what happens to love in the various stages of the relationship, why so many men and women are unhappy with their marriages, and what can be done to make long lasting and loving relations that fit the world in which we live. She confronts us with basic questions about the relationships between men and women in marriage: i.e., role division, parenting, sex, and disagreements - and provides insights, solutions, and tools about how couples can overcome marriage pitfalls and improve their relationships.

A manual for everyone who wants a solid lasting relationship. Highly recommended!!!


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Reviews from Amazon

 
 
 
Samuel Katz
5.0 out of 5 stars
I strongly recommend this book!
December 1, 2018
With thousands of books written about relationships, it is not easy to find a book like this one, that is well written and thoroughly explained, and at the same time is able to convey its message so clearly and simply.
I am sure that this book will help many people understand themselves and their partner better and find a common ground.This phrase from the book really explains and resumes why communication is so important, and I hope many will learn from this book:
"In the committed relationship, women’s desire for intimacy and closeness may be perceived by men as a threatening act of domineering and denial of their freedom. At the same time, men’s desire for separateness and independence may be perceived by women as an act of indifference and alienation."
 
 
 
 
Abbigail Holmes
5.0 out of 5 stars
Amazing analysis of a marriage
November 1, 2018
I must say that I really do like books written by experts which are readable for all those people who are not experts in the field in question. I really admire those authors, and author of this book is one of them.This book gives very straightforward, well-argumented basics for the theory about Xanthippe syndrome, it gives even more of that: it gives us examples from everyday's life which are precious for those kinds of books. After the theory, there is a practical part: how to solve a problem.This part of the book is also written very well, so everyone can understand it. There are lists of "don't" and "do" things, which is always good to have and lots of advice and suggestions which are all followed by examples.I like examples. And I really enjoy seeing that it is possible to talk about such a complicated relationship, as marriage is, in a simple and understandable way.
 
 
 
Piaras
5.0 out of 5 stars
Acquire important insights and tools for improving your relationship.
October 28, 2018:
Intimacy is what we all truly would like to have, not just a relationship. What if true intimacy is achieved only when all the barriers are down and there are no judgments in between? Dr. Sara Breslerman deals with the relationship between men and women in marriage. She examines ‘what happens to love in the various stages of the relationship, why so many men and women are unhappy with their marriages, and what can be done to make long lasting and loving relations that fit the world in which we live.’
There’s no doubt that this author is very knowledgeable in her field. Though, Just like any book, there are disagreements about its perspectives. You can use what you need to use. You can throw away what you don’t need to use. The Xanthippe Factor is a buffet of ideas.
I recommend it to anyone who wants to live more a sensible, joyful and happy life. Just read it and see whether it will change your point of view on relationships or not. A well-deserved five stars.

 
 
 
Ronit Mor
reviewed a product Nov 22, 2018
5 out of five stars
Marvelous book
I think we all have to thank Dr. Sara Breslerman for writing this marvelous book.It gives a light on relationship of couples and help understanding human kind.I sure recommend everyone reading this special book.
 
 
 

Anna
Recommended, especially for married men
December 2, 2018
The book is exploring the subject of female dissatisfaction with marriage. It explores it's historical, socioeconomic and psychological roots. It is written an a very accessible language, and easy to read. I think it describes the female side of the story very accurately.I liked the description of different stages of marriage, and the correlating examples of couples that the writer had counseled.

 
 
 
 
 
Shelly T.
4.0 out of 5 stars
Lots of great information!
December 5, 2018
What a great book - full of great information that will help with any relationship! I will definitely use this book for many, many years.
 
 
 
 
 
 
Revi Iskovitz
reviewed a product Sep 21, 20185
5.0 out of five stars
A worthwhile read!!!I
loved the book. it is giving insight and tools for married life today. I identified withmany of the situations the book describes, I will use many of the tips the authormentioned.
A worthwhile read!!!
 
 
 
35Majanka
4.0 out of 5 stars
Recommended to everyone who is married or in a relationship
November 11, 2018
The Xanthippe Factor talks about couples, marriage and relationships, and how couples nowadays can overcome the challenges of being in a long-lasting relationship in this modern, ever-changing world. While the world has changed with every era slipping by, marriage has stayed more or less the same (in terms of the institution of marriage) since the time of the Greek philosophers.

Based on the relationship of Greek philosopher Socrates without his wife Xanthippe, the book explains how little marriage has changed over time. It also asks some basic, but confrontational questions about role division, parenting, sex and how couples argue – how are disagreements solved? – to help people gain more insights in this relationship.

Being in a relationship for ten years now (wow! When I was a teenager, I never could’ve imagined being in a relationship with one single person for this long) I could identify with a lot of things described in the book, and the book also gave me some insight into life as a couple nowadays, and how to overcome challenges all couples face.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Oct 20, 2018
Christine rated it 5 stars! it was amazing
Our relationships with our partners start in our childhood in a subconscious way. It more or less picks our partners.
Xanthippe Factor takes us through a journey through patterns in relationships.
There are different levels in all relationships, each level comes with its own set of challenges and solutions. We just have to listen and talk about what we want or what we expect. Otherwise we become someone we don't want to be.
This book is for all couples, from the beginnings, to the middle, to the elder age.
Each person in a relationship reading this book will see yourself, in one way or another.
It is emotional and it invites changes to relationships no matter what stage.
 
 
 
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I could identify with a lot of things described in the book, and the book also gave me some insight into life as a couple nowadays, and how to overcome challenges all couples face.
 
 
 
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